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Will You Choose to Be An Overcomer?

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Proving Ground - Part 3

Do you find yourself questioning the authority of those in your life? Do you struggle to see yourself as God sees you? Do you find yourself becoming easily offended? All of these things have the tendency to test us. How do we overcome these trials?

We are tackling tests 5, 6, and & 7 from Proving Ground by Kevin Gerald today. Here is a recap of the first 4:

  1. The Test of Small Things
  2. The Motivation Test
  3. The Credibility Test
  4. The Wilderness Test

5. The Authority Test

As Christians, it is important for us to remember that when authority fails or when we disagree with their direction, God is looking at our response. The ability to respond properly and without rebellion is the purpose of this test.

The right response can never include a physical or verbal attack. The right response can never include a demonstration of anger or hostility. The right response can never stir up strife by rallying support for your position.

When you disagree, the right response includes challenging the process without challenging the authority of the leader. We must be public raving fans and honest private critics.

Often when delegating tasks, it's easy for us to blame failure on the person whom we have delegated the job to. But as leaders, we must take responsibility for every failure and give credit for every win. Delegation never relieves you of responsibility.

6. The Warfare Test

The fight for our future is more internal than external. In the book, Gerald says, "The greatest enemy of your future is not what happens, but it's how you see yourself when it happens."

When you face a challenge or setback, how do you see yourself? How do you respond? A breakthrough champion is not one who has a life free from adversity; they are overcomers.

The key ingredient to being a champion is choosing to be a champion. Our inner strength is built up when we face adversity and overcome it. You must see your self as God sees you because He sees you as a champion.

Putting yourself down doesn't lift God up. Shrinking back from adversity doesn't make Him happy because it is impossible to please Him without faith. Faith requires us to press on beyond what we can see or what we can feel and to instead lean on Him and what He sees and says.

People who hesitate in making a choice to be a champion are people who are looking at their own weaknesses. They see all of their failures and shortcomings, but overcomers see God's strength in their weakness.

7. The Offence Test

Jesus lived from a place of knowing who He was and not allowing Himself to be defined by what people said about Him. In order to become like this, we must realize that feelings of offence are unavoidable. The key is in what you do with that feeling.

You have to push past the feeling and choose to forgive - choose to overlook the offence so that you don't get bogged down by it.

There are three relationship principles that help us avoid the offence trap.

  1. Accurately define your role in the relationship. If the roles are unclear, those involved are more vulnerable to offence. If tension exists in a relationship, then chances are good that someone involved is not considering or respecting roles.
  2. Assume the best about others. When you feel a sense of offence, step back and ask yourself, "Why would this person intentionally try to hurt me?" If you're being honest, they probably weren't intending to hurt you. Asking yourself this question gives others the benefit of the doubt and helps you avoid the risk of judging them falsely.
  3. Don't meddle. Avoid involving yourself in other people's affairs unless you are invited. This prevents you from carrying a third-hand offence that isn't yours to carry.

Gerald claims that the number one reason people live offended is due to unfulfilled expectations. This includes expectations that are often unspoken, unmet, or unrealistic. When dealing with this, label the expectation. Ask yourself, "Why am I offended? What was my expectation?" When the expectation is labelled, we can more easily communicate the expectation to the other person and either alter our expectation or they can more easily change theirs.

Solomon said it is to one's glory to overlook an offence. When we are trapped in the muck and mire of bitterness and unforgiveness, we are hindered from moving forward. Our mission is too great to be sidetracked by something as small as an offence. Why? Because the church is the hope of the world and we have a vision to reach every available person, at every available time, by every available means, with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, by creating churches unchurched people love to attend.

 

We would highly encourage all of our listeners to purchase their own copy of Proving Ground as we discuss this book together. If you'd like to purchase one, you can find them here.

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What I've Learned From Past Projects

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Project Management - Part 5

We hope you have enjoyed this past series on Project Management! To wrap things up, I am sharing some of my personal experiences when it comes to managing projects and goals. My team and I have accomplished some great things but we have also learned some tough lessons along the way.

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4 Deadly Project Killers

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Project Management - Part 3

Projects can be messy. We set ambitious goals and work with a variety of people with different personalities to achieve our objectives, so something is bound to go sideways. How can you prepare yourself to avoid giving up?

So far, we have discussed firstly, being specific and clear in defining the project with yourself and then with your team. Secondly, we talked about setting goals, which is the "what" you want to accomplish by "when", and then working with the right people on your team to define objectives. It's important to delegate the tasks to the right people and set a deadline for each. Let's pick up with point number 6!

6. Beware of any Project Killers

There are a lot of things that can sideline a project. For me, I have found that I can categorize my project killers into the 4 D's.

Distractions

A great question to ask yourself when opportunities arise is, "Will this opportunity benefit the big picture of the organization and its vision, or is it a distraction?"

Discouragement

Every leader is going to battle discouragement. It's inevitable. Usually, it happens when we are disappointed over a failed expectation.

Divisions

It is very rare that a project doesn't involve conflict. Recognize the symptoms and take the time you and your team need to rest, recreate, refuel, and refire with the vision.

Disengagement

If I feel myself or the team disengaging from God, people, or the vision, I know that there is a problem most likely due to losing focus.

Avoiding the Deadly D's

Visions leaks so it is important to continually reiterate the vision throughout the project, not just at the beginning or when the 4 D's raise their ugly heads.

I tell my team all of the time to not just bring me problems, but also solutions. We want to be solution focused, not just problem focused.

I think there are two main areas of responsibility for a project manager:

  1. Resource your team with everything they will need to get the job done.

  2. Learn to communicate with your team. A project manager's primary function is to communicate and bridge the communication between all the different personalities involved.

Spiritually, we must keep our heads in the game and our hearts pliable towards the Lord in the multiple projects and diversity of team players day to day. As a pastor, I remind myself often that Christ is the head of the church and that the gates of hell will not prevail against the church. I must surrender daily to God's lead, rely on His strength, seek His wisdom from the Word, and cast all my cares on Him because He cares for me. I also remind myself that the church is the hope of the world, and Jesus gave us a mission to reach every available person, at every available time, by every available means, with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, by creating churches unchurched people love to attend.

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3 Steps to Starting Any Project

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Project Management - Part 1

As leaders, we are constantly starting and finishing a variety of projects. However, the church is an event-driven business. How do we manage our projects without getting stuck in the rut of our weekly programs?

At one of our past All-Staff days, I discussed with our team eight of the necessary components for planning projects. Today, we are going to tackle three of those.

1. Identify your project.

In this stage, it is very important to be specific for a couple of reasons.

The more specific you get with your team, the easier it is for them to follow your instructions and go to work with clear expectations. The leader benefits personally because it brings clarity to their thinking. It is also much easier to follow through on the project when the details have been thought out.

As a young leader, I discovered that taking time to plan may take some effort initially, but in the long run, having a clearly defined project saves time, money, and a lot of headaches once the project has launched.

2. Define goals and objectives.

Your goals are the “what” of the project. The objectives are the “how” of accomplishing that goal. When working to accomplish something with my team, I would inform them of the goal and then ask them, “How do you think we can accomplish this?” Allowing them to brainstorm and be apart of the process of setting objectives will boost their involvement and motivation in carrying out those objectives.

3. Delegate tasks.

Let’s be real, as the leader you can’t do everything yourself. Delegating is a part of giving your team ownership over the project and efficiently completing all of your objectives. It will save you time and allow your team to work together.

Why do Church Projects Fumble?

Church projects can get caught in any one of these points. We often aren’t clear in describing projects and objectives to our teams or ourselves. Sometimes we skip involving our team in laying out objectives or we don’t delegate the specific tasks to our team members to get done.

Skipping any of these steps will cause us to drop the ball. Churches are event-driven organizations that exist to put on weekly programs. We can easily find ourselves in the rut of the weekly grind and ignore the big projects.

With all of this project management to handle, reaching people for Jesus can be somewhat more complicated, but it is more important then ever before. Amidst a lost and uncertain generation, the church is the hope of the world and we have a vision to reach every available person, at every available time, by every available means, with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, by creating churches unchurched people love to attend.

 

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Leading Generation Z

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Marching Off the Map - Part 3

Leading this up and coming generation can be a very daunting task. Parenting especially is vastly different than it was 10 years ago. For the sake of our children, it is crucial that we learn the best approach. On this episode, we are comparing some tactics for best reaching our kids and youth.

Connect, don't control.

These days, we as parents have become very good at protecting our kids but have lacked when it comes to preparing them. We govern their actions, schedules, and relationships to the point where we are no longer doing them any good. Studies show that parents who over-program their children's lives tend to breed children who rebel as teens. To counter this, we need to work on connecting with our kids, building deep relationships that are able to bear the truth when needed.

Achievement, not simply participation.

One of my pet peeves is participation awards. Not just because I am competitive, but because I feel that in an attempt to make people happy, we end up making it worse. According to the American Psychologist Association, healthy and robust self-esteem actually comes from achievement, not merely affirmation. So, in our attempts to protect our children's self-esteem, we are actually creating a new "at risk" child; middle class, affluent kids who are depressed because they never really achieved anything. Let's not assume that simply telling our children that they are special and awesome will build their self-esteem, but instead give them opportunities to work at becoming amazing!

Expose, don't impose.

Elmore says, "Imposing rules and behaviours on this generation carries negative baggage." But we've always found rules and imposed behaviours a favourite default in parenting. It can often be safer, cleaner, and easier for all of us, not just parents. When our children feel forced to do something, they don't take ownership of it and we are simply modifying their current behaviour without affecting their heart.

Make things enticing for your kids so they actually want to participate. In doing so, they will learn more effectively because they will own it. This works in every avenue of life; parenting, managing, leading, etc.

Jesus used this technique. He never imposed truth on people but instead exposed them to it by asking questions and leading them down a path of self-discovery so they could own the answers themselves.

Describe, don't prescribe.

We as parents have the tendency to map everything out for our kids. We are somewhat removing the need for kids to use their own imaginations and creativity. Elmore says, "Instead of prescribing what they should do next, try 'describing.' Describe an outcome or goal, and let them figure out how to reach it with their own ingenuity."

Be real, not "cool."

I think we are a generation of parents who are trying too hard to be cool. We so desperately want to be our kids' friends that, in doing so, we lose ourselves a bit and ultimately we lose them too.

Today's parents have strayed from the authoritarian approach of their parents in an effort to be different. We think that if we can be just like our kids, we will be liked by our kids. So, we try to dress like them, act like them, listen to the same music, watch the same movies and the list goes on. But in reality, grown adults can barely pull this off without being laughable.

Our kids aren't looking to us to be cool, but want us to be authentic. I'd encourage parents to relax and learn to laugh at yourself. Be self-aware, genuinely listen, speak in a tone that is believable, and don't focus on being cool; focus on being real.

People are searching for something or someone real. That's what I love about the Bible. It doesn't "sugarcoat" life, but depicts the raw and real aspects of it. I think it is time for the church to be real, unafraid to discuss some ugliness of this life. Authenticity is why our slogan, "No Perfect People," has had so much traction. The church needs to get where people are really living and reach them there because they need real hope. The church really is the hope of the world, and for every generation, we are on a mission to reach every available person, at every available time, by every available means, with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, by creating churches unchurched people love to attend.

Episode Resources

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