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Top 10 Books for 2016

In this year end podcast, Gene and Kelly each discuss the top 5 books they read in 2016. Here is the list of 10 books. Click on the title of the book and order your copy today.

  1. THE 4 DISCIPLINES OF EXECUTION by Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling 1. Focus on the wildly important. 2. Act on the lead measures. 3. Keep a compelling scoreboard. 4. Create a cadence of accountability.


  2. INSTINCT by TD Jakes Giraffes eat from tree tops and rarely drop their heads for anything but water. Cousins to the Camels, if they dropped their heads more often they would lose their balance. They don’t get their nourishment on grass level with turtles. They learn to avoid the clamour of what’s happening at ground level.  In leadership it’s best to eat from higher thoughts than lower ones. Leaders with a limited level of sight can’t be expected to see what leaders with a higher level of sight gain in perspective and wisdom.  Our opinions and vision is usually based on our perspective.Whatever stimulates us gives us energy and helps us be our best. Feed on what feeds your dream. We must live to unpack our inventory of uniqueness.


  3. THE SPIRIT CONTEMPORARY LIFE by Leon FontaineThe thing to realize as you pray for people is that when Holy Spirit works, it’s not really about you. It’s not about your ability or lack thereof. The more you realize that, the more free you will feel to step into other’s lives to help, and the more you will communicate and act in a way that effectively reaches others.Being Spirit Contemporary isn’t hard. All you really need is to do two things: respect people and follow Holy Spirit’s lead.You can be Spirit Contemporary and change the wrapper (how you share the message) while leaving the gift (Jesus) intact.Being Spirit Contemporary isn’t about pleasing people so they will like you. It’s about being so confident, strong, and secure in your identity as a child of God that people notice the difference in your life and are attracted to you as you direct them toward Jesus.

  4. UNTHINK by Eric Wahl An “artist” Is anyone who challenges the conventional wisdom and inspires change that creates new channels of problem solving and innovating.5 things that help us rediscover our creative genius: 1.  Curiosity - As a child you had two things on your agenda: exploration and creation.  2.  Discovery - is the Holy Grail of childhood 3.  Conviction - the sooner we start working with the conviction that we can be creative, the sooner we recapture our sense of wonder. Don’t live wearing the mask of other’s  the convictions. Ask yourself: What makes me come alive? People unite behind people of conviction. 4.  Acceleration - Jack Welch said, “If the rate of change on the outside exceeds the rate of change on the inside, the end is near.” 5. Spontaneity -  Spontaneity inspires. Spontaneity is the bridge to mystery…and mystery opens our eyes to new possibilities.  Spontaneity counterbalances your left brain’s cry for safety and predictability. Our left brain tells us that our days are easiest when we know what to expect.  But our right brain reminds us that our days are inspiring only when we venture into the unknown.


  5. THE IDEAL TEAM PLAYER by Patrick Lencioni  Ideal team players possess adequate measures of humility, hunger, and people smarts. They have little ego when it comes to needing attention or credit for their contributions, and they are comfortable sharing their accolades or even occasionally missing out on them. Ideal team players work with a sense of energy, passion, and personal responsibility, taking on whatever they possibly can for the good of the team. Finally, they say and do the right things to help teammates feel appreciated, understood, and included, even when difficult situations arise that require tough love.

  6. TALK LIKE TED by Carmine Gallo    “The great truths of the world have often been couched in fascinating stories.” ~ Dale CarnegieThe ability to tell a personal story is the essential trait of an authentic leader. Make it personal.  Take the audience on a journey. If you want to be quoted, tell a story. An audience wants someone or something to cheer for. They want to be inspired. Captivate their imagination with a story. We can only reach minds if we first touch hearts.

  7. UNQUALIFIED by Steven Furtick    This is a book about understanding your identity in light of who God us. It’s a book about coming to terms with the good, the bad, and the unmentionable in your life and learning to let God use you.

  8. THE WRIGHT BROTHERS by David McCullough   The Wright Brothers believed that if they could figure out this flying machine, it would change the world, they imagined that it would benefit everyone else if they were successful. It was the Wright Brothers passion that took them where no one had ever gone.

  9. THROUGH THE EYES OF A LION by Levi Lusko    The best book I’ve read on how to handle grief. The story of Pastor Levi and Jenny and the loss of their young daughter Lenya 4 years ago and how they learned to anchor their faith in God despite a devastating tragedy.

  10. FAILING FORWARD by John Maxwell“The difference between average people and achievers is their perception and response to failure.”

FAILING BACKWARD Blame others Repeat the same mistakes Expect never to fail again Expect to continually fail Accept tradition blindly Limit themselves by their past mistakes Think to themselves:  “I’m a failure” Quitting

FAILING FORWARD Take responsibility Learn from each mistake Know failure is part of a process Maintain a positive attitude Challenge outdated assumptions Take new risks Believe something didn’t work Persevering

No matter how difficult your problems are, the key to overcoming them is not changing your circumstances, but changing yourself.

 

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Coaching Through Failure

In John Maxwell’s book “Failing Forward”, he writes: “the difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure.”

You’ve had failures. I’ve had failures. All of us have had failures. How do you learn to look beyond the failure? How should you respond to failure today?

How to use reflective thinking:

  1. Look at the _______________.

  2. Look for _______________.

    1. Excuses are _______________ _______________.

    2. Excuses _______________ _______________ .

    3. Excuses’ champion a _______________ mentality and outcome.

    4. Excuses is a language of _______________.

    5. Excuses breed a culture of _______________.

    6. Excuses will put _______________ out of reach.

    7. Excuses often reveal someone pursuing their own interests above the interest of their _______________!

    8. Excuses will _______________ you the rest of your life and _______________ you from your destiny.

3. Look at what can I  _______________ ?

Successful people learn from the past and _______________ _______________ of it. Unsuccessful people yearn for the past and  _______________   _______________ with it.

J. Wallace Hamilton, writer for Leadership Magazine wrote:“The increase of suicides, alcoholics, and even some forms of nervous breakdowns is evidence that many people are training for success when they should be training for failure. Failure is far more common than success; poverty is more prevalent than wealth: and disappointment more normal than arrival.”

CHARACTERISTICS OF THOSE WHO FAIL BACKWARD

  1. BLAME OTHERS

  2. REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKES

  3. EXPECT NEVER TO FAIL AGAIN

  4. EXPECT TO CONTINUALLY FAIL

  5. ACCEPT TRADITION BLINDLY

  6. ARE LIMITED BY PAST MISTAKES

  7. THINK THEY ARE A FAILURE

  8. QUIT

CHARACTERISTICS OF THOSE WHO FAIL FORWARD

  1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

  2. LEARN FROM EACH MISTAKE

  3. KNOW FAILURE IS A PART OF A PROCESS

  4. MAINTAIN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

  5. CHALLENGE OUTDATED ASSUMPTIONS

  6. 6TAKE NEW RISKS

  7. BELIEVE “SOMETHING” DIDN’T WORK

  8. PERSERVERE

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Mentally Strong Leaders Cliff Jump

Dr. Daniel Goleman states that the higher a leader rises in an organization, the less important technical skills become, and the more important EQ becomes. “EQ counts for 80-90% of the factors that distinguish average from outstanding leaders.” Christopher Columbus

Mentally strong people avoid giving up after failure. 

The only way to guarantee failure is to quit. This is not about a stubborn refusal to hold onto something that is no longer effective but a fierce desire to succeed despite obstacles and set backs. Realign your thinking to see every failure as a chance to improve.

Ask yourself:

  • Are you willing to fail again and again as long as that failure brings you closer to your ultimate goal?
  • Is this a mission failure or a method failure? Never give up on your mission, but methods need constant adjustments.
  • What is the best way to...?

Remember the moment you say, “I give up,” someone else is seeing the same situation and saying, “My, what a great opportunity.”

Mentally strong people avoid shying away from change.

They embrace change and welcome challenges. It energizes them and brings out their best. Their biggest fear is not of the unknown but becoming stagnant and complacent.

Leaders are constantly challenged to:

  • Fight personal complacency. It is the last hurdle to greatness. It is the “success disease”.
  • When helping others change ask these 3 questions:
    1. Is it worth it? If not, why waste their effort?
    2. Will they do it? If not, why waste your effort?
    3. Can they do it? If they can’t, why waste both your efforts?

Mentally strong people avoid fearing taking calculated risks.

I’m not talking about jumping into foolish risk. This is about weighing the upsides vs. the downsides. Is there anything siting in front of you that scares you to death? There should be.

“the greatest risk of all is a life of riskless living” ~Dr. George Hill

How to get comfortable being uncomfortable:

  • Take the most difficult and important risk - be honest with yourself. “Show me a guy who is afraid of looking bad and I will show you a guy who can be beat every single time!”  If you aren’t making mistakes you are not taking enough risks.
  • Desire learning more than winning or losing. If you look at something you did a year ago and are still impressed by what you did it means you aren’t growing. Complacency is the enemy.
  • Be controlled by your dream, not your emotions.
  • Risk taking is a developed skill. You won't know how far you can go until you try.

Where did you push through a failure with surprising results?