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The Give and Take of Criticism

Giving constructive criticism is tricky.  We can hesitate to criticize because we are intimidated to do so or wrestle with feeling “judge not lest you be judged”.  Or we can slide over into the other ditch and become bold and too matter of fact with criticism, becoming blunt pushing too many buttons with results that are less than positive. Both responses are unhealthy. How do you give constructive criticism without being a jerk? How do you constructively criticize someone’s work or behaviour without it coming across as a personal attack?

Leadership Weaknesses

We understand blind spots in the context of driving; areas around us where we can’t see what’s going on around us.The larger those blind spots are, the more dangerous they become. The same is true in leadership. John Maxwell defines a blind spot as “an area in the lives of people in which they continually do not see themselves or their situation realistically.”

Candour

In today’s podcast, Gene and Kelly are discussing candour. Candour is a fascinating subject. Several sources defined candour as “transparency”.And transparency was defined as “capable of being seen through”.

Candour is sometimes defined as “frank, open, and sincere communication.” The free flow of information is said to give an organization the ability to solve problems, innovate, meet challenges and achieve goals.

Barbara Corcoran, of Shark Tank TV fame, says that she can predict that an organization is headed to failure when the leader blames others for their failing situation and when that leader tries to get her to feel sorry for them. Both of these signs are a symptom of a culture that prohibits candour. Is your organization in danger because of a lack of candour?

3 Benefits of Candour:

  1. Candour gets more people in the conversation and you get __________ rich.

  2. Candour generates __________.

  3. Candour cuts __________.

“When there is an absence of trust, it stems from the leader’s unwillingness to be vulnerable with the group. Leaders who are not genuinely open with one another about their mistakes and weaknesses make it impossible to build a foundation of trust.”

~Patrick Lencioni~

How to Build Trust:

  1. You __________them as a human being — Mutual __________.

  2. You care about their __________— Mutual __________.

Progress is always proceeded by  __________.

Change is always proceeded by __________.

Challenging the status quo is often where leadership  __________.

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Coaching Through Failure

In John Maxwell’s book “Failing Forward”, he writes: “the difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure.”

You’ve had failures. I’ve had failures. All of us have had failures. How do you learn to look beyond the failure? How should you respond to failure today?

How to use reflective thinking:

  1. Look at the _______________.

  2. Look for _______________.

    1. Excuses are _______________ _______________.

    2. Excuses _______________ _______________ .

    3. Excuses’ champion a _______________ mentality and outcome.

    4. Excuses is a language of _______________.

    5. Excuses breed a culture of _______________.

    6. Excuses will put _______________ out of reach.

    7. Excuses often reveal someone pursuing their own interests above the interest of their _______________!

    8. Excuses will _______________ you the rest of your life and _______________ you from your destiny.

3. Look at what can I  _______________ ?

Successful people learn from the past and _______________ _______________ of it. Unsuccessful people yearn for the past and  _______________   _______________ with it.

J. Wallace Hamilton, writer for Leadership Magazine wrote:“The increase of suicides, alcoholics, and even some forms of nervous breakdowns is evidence that many people are training for success when they should be training for failure. Failure is far more common than success; poverty is more prevalent than wealth: and disappointment more normal than arrival.”

CHARACTERISTICS OF THOSE WHO FAIL BACKWARD

  1. BLAME OTHERS

  2. REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKES

  3. EXPECT NEVER TO FAIL AGAIN

  4. EXPECT TO CONTINUALLY FAIL

  5. ACCEPT TRADITION BLINDLY

  6. ARE LIMITED BY PAST MISTAKES

  7. THINK THEY ARE A FAILURE

  8. QUIT

CHARACTERISTICS OF THOSE WHO FAIL FORWARD

  1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

  2. LEARN FROM EACH MISTAKE

  3. KNOW FAILURE IS A PART OF A PROCESS

  4. MAINTAIN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

  5. CHALLENGE OUTDATED ASSUMPTIONS

  6. 6TAKE NEW RISKS

  7. BELIEVE “SOMETHING” DIDN’T WORK

  8. PERSERVERE

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