Dr. Daniel Goleman states that the higher a leader rises in an organization, the less important technical skills become, and the more important EQ becomes. “EQ counts for 80-90% of the factors that distinguish average from outstanding leaders.”
Mentally strong people avoid giving up after failure.
The only way to guarantee failure is to quit. This is not about a stubborn refusal to hold onto something that is no longer effective but a fierce desire to succeed despite obstacles and set backs. Realign your thinking to see every failure as a chance to improve.
- Are you willing to fail again and again as long as that failure brings you closer to your ultimate goal?
- Is this a mission failure or a method failure? Never give up on your mission, but methods need constant adjustments.
- What is the best way to...?
Remember the moment you say, “I give up,” someone else is seeing the same situation and saying, “My, what a great opportunity.”
Mentally strong people avoid shying away from change.
They embrace change and welcome challenges. It energizes them and brings out their best. Their biggest fear is not of the unknown but becoming stagnant and complacent.
Leaders are constantly challenged to:
- Fight personal complacency. It is the last hurdle to greatness. It is the “success disease”.
- When helping others change ask these 3 questions:
- Is it worth it? If not, why waste their effort?
- Will they do it? If not, why waste your effort?
- Can they do it? If they can’t, why waste both your efforts?
Mentally strong people avoid fearing taking calculated risks.
I’m not talking about jumping into foolish risk. This is about weighing the upsides vs. the downsides. Is there anything siting in front of you that scares you to death? There should be.
“the greatest risk of all is a life of riskless living” ~Dr. George Hill
How to get comfortable being uncomfortable:
- Take the most difficult and important risk - be honest with yourself. “Show me a guy who is afraid of looking bad and I will show you a guy who can be beat every single time!” If you aren’t making mistakes you are not taking enough risks.
- Desire learning more than winning or losing. If you look at something you did a year ago and are still impressed by what you did it means you aren’t growing. Complacency is the enemy.
- Be controlled by your dream, not your emotions.
- Risk taking is a developed skill. You won't know how far you can go until you try.
Where did you push through a failure with surprising results?