True transformation comes from a renewed mind. A renewed mind comes from removing the old ways of thinking and putting on the new ways of thinking.
Our old ways of thinking are usually not our fault! Most of our unrenewed thinking was put in there by someone else, whether that be our parents, our teachers and coaches, our entertainment, or society in general. This wrong thinking is often only evident when it’s too late, when we mess up badly, and we reap the results of our mess up. Often this poor thinking will be revealed in the lies we tell ourselves or the excuses we use to justify those mistakes.
But there is hope. The best way to counter the specific lies we tell ourselves is with specific truths from the Bible. This is what the Apostle Paul meant when he said that true transformation comes from a renewed mind in Romans 12:2.
When it comes to relationships, most of us, have been so inundated with society’s thinking on marriage, dating, sex and relationships that there are deep seeded lies in our thinking that we aren't even aware are there. Again, this is not our fault. But the consequences of this wrong thinking is so devastating to our relationships and causes us, and those closest to us, so much pain.
What we all need to do, all of us - those who are believer’s in Jesus and those of you that aren’t, those of us that are married, and those of you who aren’t - is renew our thinking when it comes to relationships! Obviously, the way we think now in society isn’t working when over 50% of our marriages end up in divorce!
The only way to renew our minds, is to unpack the old ways of thinking and to put on the new. We need to renew our minds about marriage, relationships, sex, dating - all of it! We need to line up our thinking with what God and the Bible teach us about all of that. After all, He has the best track record when it comes to relationships.
The Apostle Paul said in Philippians 2:5 (NIV) "In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:"
The truth is, all of us need to renew our mindsets when it comes to our marriage and relationships! Our society is feeding us so much misinformation, and it sounds so practical and right, but it is deadly!! And it’s tearing relationships apart and destroying people.
With that in mind, here are the Top 5 books I've read to date on marriage that have helped me renew my thinking. These 5 are all based on the Bible and share amazing revelations from God's Word that will revolutionize your marriage and relationships.
Top 5 Marriage Books:
- The Marriage Builder by Dr. Larry Crabb
- The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller
- Manage Your Man by Dr. Hazel Hill
- The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- Sexperiment by Pastor Ed & Lisa Young
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